Like most people in their 20’s, I’ve had Facebook since high school. I’ve used it to keep up with friends, to find new connections, and to grow my business.
Back in 2007, I had just 100 friends. Now, nearly 7 years later, my friend list has grown to over 650!
Ever since my son was born I’ve been thinking that I really needed to clean out my Facebook friend’s list. I mean, do I really know 650 people? That’s like a small village! Have I even talked to half of them in the last 5 years? Absolutely not.
I’ve debated getting rid of Facebook for good. Then I think, what about my out of state family? How will I stay in touch? How will I see their children grow or visa versa? Plus, my business and blog depend on it.
So I decided not to get rid of it… maybe someday.
But the more I started thinking about Facebook, the more I realized: it leads me to sin.
Now don’t get me wrong, Facebook isn’t the culprit here and neither are any of my “friends”. I am the one to blame. I am the one becoming jealous, judgemental, or gossiping about what I see on Facebook. The words come out of my mouth and my mind.
Now what does the Bible say?
Matthew 18:7-9 (NIV)
7 Woe to the world because of the things that cause people to stumble! Such things must come, but woe to the person through whom they come! 8 If your hand or your foot causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to enter life maimed or crippled than to have two hands or two feet and be thrown into eternal fire.9 And if your eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to enter life with one eye than to have two eyes and be thrown into the fire of hell.
Yikes. Cut it off… Remove it. I guess that’s direct enough. I’d much rather lose touch with people than have them lead me to sin, or me lead them to sin.
So that’s what I did. I removed almost 500 people from that list. Here are the guidelines I used.
- Do I judge this person by what they say?
- Am I led to be jealous of this person?
- Do I talk about this person (either their life or what they say)?
- Does this person’s views line up with mine? (Now sometimes opposing views are great, but I’m talking about views that lead me to sin)
- Would I talk to this person if I saw them in public?
If I answered yes to any of questions 1-3 or no to questions 4-5, the that person gets deleted. It doesn’t matter how “long” we’ve been friends or how closely we are related.
Now I realize that deleting all of these people isn’t going to take my sin away. I’m a work in progress and this was just one of the steps I needed to take to get back on the right track.
However, deleting these people has made me realize who is important in my life. I know who I want to spend my time on and with. I know the people who build me up and who I can build up.
Oh, and I’m also finding that I’m spending less time on Facebook and more time with my face in the Book.
Now I encourage you to look at your life. Does Facebook edify you or is it a stumbling block in your life?